Respostas
One question.
One answer.
Every page here opens with the answer, in about fifty words, before any explanation. If that is all you needed, you can leave — which is the point.
- Answer first
- No preamble
- Ten questions
01
Ask anything.
Type the question the way you would ask it. Every answer here opens with the answer itself — about fifty words, before any explanation.
That one is not answered yet — write to us and it will be. The Guest Handbook and Etiquette cover the longer problems.
02
The questions.
When should invitations be sent?
Six to eight weeks before, with replies due three to four weeks before. Full table by event type.
How many invitations do I need?
One per household, not per guest — which is why most people order nearly double.
What goes on an invitation?
Five things, in a fixed order — and four that belong on the details card instead.
Do I need an event website?
Yes if guests travel or anything may change. No for a simple local event.
Can every guest get a different invitation?
Yes — one file per guest, with their own name, language, table and code.
What stationery does a wedding need?
Three essential pieces, six most weddings want, and the ones you can skip.
When should RSVPs be due?
Three to four weeks before — and never later than a week before your venue's deadline.
How do I make a seating chart?
Six steps in an order that stops you doing the whole thing twice.
Digital or printed?
For most events, both — from one design. Choosing one usually costs you something real.
How do I manage 400 guests?
What breaks at scale, in the order it breaks, and what to do instead.
03
Every answer
becomes something.
The ten pages above answer your questions. This is the other direction — the questions you ask two hundred guests, and what each reply is worth once it lands somewhere that can count it. Five real replies from one evening.
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The guest answered
Rebecca Cohen
Any dietary requirements?
“Vegetarian — and no shellfish for David.”
It is filed as
Menu · AllergyVegetarian · Shellfish
And this moves
Vegetarian covers for the kitchen
3233
The allergy is filed against David, not against the household — so the kitchen gets a name, not a number.
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The guest answered
The Okafor household
Which events will you be joining?
“Ceremony only — we fly home on the Sunday.”
It is filed as
AttendingCeremony · not brunch
And this moves
Sunday brunch covers
118114
Four fewer places, and four fewer brunch cards to print. They are never told about a party they are not invited to.
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The guest answered
Marc Fontaine
Will you need the hotel transfer?
“Both nights, if there is room.”
It is filed as
TransportHotel → venue · 2 nights
And this moves
Guests needing a car
3638
Thirty-eight is now a group you can write to. The other 176 never see the message.
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The guest answered
Sofia Cohen
Are you bringing a guest?
“Yes — Tomás Ferreira.”
It is filed as
Plus-oneTomás Ferreira
And this moves
Place cards to set
151152
The name flows to the place card and the seating chart. Nobody retypes it, so nobody misspells it.
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The guest answered
Beatriz Duarte
Vai comparecer?
“Vou sim, com muito gosto.”
It is filed as
Reply✓ Attending · 1
And this moves
Still awaiting a reply
3231
She was asked in Portuguese because that is the language on her record — and she answered in it.
Every one of these is a field the guest platform already has, or a question you added yourself. How replies work.
04
By the Tuesday before,
this is what you know.
Not a dashboard for its own sake. Four numbers, each of which somebody is waiting on — the caterer, the venue, the printer, and you.
- 214
- guests invited, in 96 households
- 152
- attending — the number the venue needs
- 31
- still to reply, and each one is nameable
- 33
- vegetarian covers, 4 allergies named
The arithmetic is on the page because it should be checkable: 152 attending + 31 declined + 31 still to reply = 214. They add up because there is one list, not four.
05
A menu is an answer
that got printed.
A guest types one word in March. In July it is a line on a printed card, a number the kitchen works from, and a plate in front of the right person — all from that one sentence, entered once, by them. The evening below is a small one: thirty-four invited, nine of them vegetarian.
What the guests answered
Vai comparecer32 de 34
Vegetariano9
Allergies named2
What the kitchen was sent
Nine vegetarian covers
Table 3 · seat 4No shellfish
Sent✓ 11 days out
06
Why these are written this way.
Most event articles bury the answer under six paragraphs of scene-setting, because a longer page used to rank better. That is a bad trade for the reader and, increasingly, a bad trade for the writer: assistants and search engines both quote passages, and a paragraph that only makes sense after five others cannot be quoted at all.
So each of these opens with the answer standing alone. The detail follows for anyone who wants it, and nobody has to read it to get what they came for.
Not finding your question? O Guest Handbook covers guest-list and reply problems in depth, Etiquette covers the social ones, and Wording has the words themselves. If it is none of those, write to us — questions asked more than a couple of times end up on this page.
Turn the answers into an event plan.
When the questions become an event: one original suite designed for your occasion, with the guest platform — households, replies, dietary notes and seating — included. One payment per event, $149 to $3,099.
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